How to Maintain Your Long Distance Relationship & Friendships

One of the best and perhaps worst parts of travelling is falling in love. We’ve all done it, more than once, and we’ve all then had to leave our new found ‘soul-mate’ at the departures gate. And we’re not just talking about the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, we’re talking friendships too – the sort that you know you will never make again. But we all know that “it is not goodbye, but see you soon”. So you’re gonna need some little tips to help the process, and here’s the best we’ve got:

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1. That little thing called the internet

Okay, this one is obvious. Skype, Facebook, Whatsapp, Viber; you’ve got them all right? (right?!) — so use them! It’s funny how many people are rubbish at keeping in touch with all this access to communication. We find if you get in a routine of chatting to your better half it all becomes easier. For example, arrange a Skype chat every Wednesday at a certain time – and commit to it! How about first thing in the morning put 10 minutes a side to Whatsapp the important people in your life to say hey. Sometimes all anybody needs is a little message.
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2. It’s ok to be sad

lonely traveller long distanceOk, so here’s the truth; sometimes LDR SUCK! Like, really suck and the only person that can make it better is the person you are missing. It’s ok to be sad – but don’t let that put you off – that doesn’t mean it’s time to break up. The likelihood is you would be upset at points if that person was right by your side every day. All relationships are full of up’s and down’s and yours are that you have to spend a lot of time apart – but come on, it’s better than because he/she wants you to stay in every weekend without exploring the world!

3. Be slow to judge

An inevitable thing that happens as humans when we are away from those we love is jealousy. This is an emotion that can destroy relationships, but also one that can be easily avoided. When we’re apart from one another or have limited exposure to a person or event, we start to make all sorts of assumptions or judgments that are usually exaggerated or untrue. Remember to be slow to judge, communicate effectively and try not to overthink things. This is when social media is not a great tool – do not overreact to photos or status’ and take time to remember not to jump to conclusions!

4. Create a photo album

It’s time to get creative! Photos are a memory captured forever, and the best way to keep reliving those fun times. Did you and your best friend meet on the road? Why not make him/her a photo box and stick in funny quotes, plane tickets, photos and random objects? The great thing about it is it is free of charge – just grab all the bits and get sticking in a box. Or if you fancy a more professional one there are tons of online providers willing to do the hard work for you. Pictures say a thousand words – make them into a million!
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5. Give a gift

Believe it or not, there is a whole store dedicated to long distance relationship gifts. There’s nothing like receiving a tangible gift from your loved one that helps narrow the miles when you’re apart. Think pillow cases, mugs and t-shirts. Kind of cute. Kind of.

6. Send handwritten letters

Who said romance is dead? How do you think people communicated before the internet? Letters of course! And, if you’re anything like us there is nothing more exciting than receiving a handwritten letter. It shows how much you care and how much effort you are prepared to put into the relationship – plus you have something to re-read over and over again and keep forever!
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7. Make plans

We all know the best ways to deal with the post-holiday blues and it’s kind of the same in a long distance relationship. Make sure you always have something planned together in the future. Set dates or goals and have something to look forward to. This maybe the most important bit of advice; if you are not growing together you will start drifting apart. Having that something to look forward to together will help keep emotions positive – it doesn’t have to be huge, it can be something as little as looking at flights together, creating a Pinterest board on places you want to go, wanderlusting over the Workaway host list or looking into jobs abroad.
Above all, if you work hard enough at it, a long distance relationship doesn’t have to be any different from any other relationship you are in.

44 replies
  1. Anna Neema
    Anna Neema says:

    my bf and i, are in a ldr since more than 1/2 year now, its definitly work (and expensive), but if love is there the only hard times are only when you say goodbye. Not doomed at all. LDR who dont survive distance arent meant to be.

  2. Juana Jana van Ginkel
    Juana Jana van Ginkel says:

    I did 2,5 years in the time there was no internet and mobile phones, just fax & post/mail and every now and then an expensive long distance telephonecall. Have lived happily together for more than 22 years now and still in <3 ... True love knows no distance!

  3. Daphne Ballian
    Daphne Ballian says:

    I think the most important thing in a long distance relationship is the people involved in it to be on the same page regarding their relationship and actively wanting to maintain it. I do believe it can work, but I think it’s pretty difficult to be on the same page for a long time with someone you practically don’t share real every day life with. Both have to really wholeheartedly want it and that’s something I would put as nr.1 in this article!

  4. Carolin Green
    Carolin Green says:

    Your post is so true! Great tips 🙂 You know, when my boyfriend decided to go and study for a year in Portugal, it felt like as if he told me he decided to break up with me. However I knew, that going abroad for some time is a chance in life, that won’t come back that easy. So after a few days of being disappointed I decided to support him and he assured me, that we would make it also through that year. So at the beginning we used a lot of communication apps like whats app and Skype, but after a while we didn’t knew what to tell the other, because we had totally different everyday-lives. I didn’t know the places and the people with whom he hung out. He got sick of hearing everyday the same stories from home. So after like two months we had our first little crisis. However, what helped me through that time, was reading my horoscope from time to time, because it always has some motivational words about your future. I just considered the one by astrosofa, which I really like. The little extra motivation helped me through the crisis and it told me to hold on and that it was the right time for going on a vacation. So few weeks later I bought a flight to my boy, he showed me around and introduced me to everyone and we had a great time in Portugal. When I had to leave, he gave me a photo album as a gift – I looked through it on my flight back home and tears were rushing down my face. My love is just too sweet…From that point on, everything got better. I even booked two more flights to see him and he is coming home in two weeks for a short stay. So if you need some motivation when you are having a hard time, go and check out your horoscope. You don’t have to be deeply into that stuff, nevertheless the words will motivate you. xx Carolin

  5. Jun Flores
    Jun Flores says:

    I Found this site full of meaty stuff, in todays new era of generation posting some important topics on the internet gives others to enlighten there minds on how to solve a particular problem God Bless to the ADMIN and More Power.

  6. Tim Honey Jones
    Tim Honey Jones says:

    Such good advice here! It can be so difficult travelling, working, travelling and falling in love. I had several failed relationships whilst moving round the world. But I still travel a lot and am in a great long distance relationship, have been for a couple of years now.

  7. Samantha
    Samantha says:

    I agree with everything you’ve said, there are plenty ways to make long distance relationship works. Especially nowadays that we already have internet. Communication and Loyalty is the key to have a successful long distance relationship. I was in a long distance relationship too and luckily we finally closed the distance and living happily together. I enjoyed reading your blog. Continue inspiring other LDR couples too. 🙂


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